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Dreams of DiCaprio, guns, bombs and cash

Jul 29th

Posted by Judy in Posts

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Do you ever dream about guns, bombs, car chases and things that go bang?

My head was bubbling with questions after watching the new Leonardo DiCaprio film Inception last night, and to be honest, that one was top of the list. I don’t think I’ve ever dreamt that kind of dream. Have you?

There’s a relationship between that scrap of wondering and the big, more important question that followed it: “What is the real commercial value of 1. being able to read someone’s mind and 2. implanting a compelling suggestion there?”

The “commercial value” question matters to me because that’s what I do. I can and do read minds.

I can implant suggestions, too (in fact, I’m doing it right now).

And yet somehow, I’m not being approached to do it by the kind of millionaires who would hire Leo and his gang – and who would incidentally buy an airline to facilitate the job

I do think what I do has solid commercial value.

For example, if you can read someone’s mind, if you can discover their deepest desires and More >

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Quieten the voice inside

Sep 1st

Posted by Judy in Clean Language

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What distracts you from listening fully to another person? For many people, it’s the ‘voice inside’ – their own internal commentator.

This voice may be distracting for all kinds of reasons – it might be offering useful-sounding suggestions, putting forward opinions, criticising, or even talking about something completely different, such as “what’s for supper?” But whatever it’s saying, it’s competing for your attention with the person you’re supposed to be listening to.

Here are some approaches that different people have found useful in this situation:

  • Ignore the voice inside! Consciously put your full attention on the other person
  • Physically take hold of your tongue and hold it still! (Try this when listening to talk radio)
  • Notice the voice inside and say “ssssshhhhh” to it
  • Place your tongue behind your teeth so it’s almost, but not quite, touching them
  • Imagine a ball rolling round a roulette wheel, quickly at first, and then gradually coming to a standstill
  • Use your peripheral vision – see the person you are listening to towards the edge of your visual field, and ignore what is central to your vision.

Why not try one or more of these and see which have the greatest impact for you?

(For more listening tips, check out Judy Rees’s book Clean More >

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