Comments for X-Ray Listening http://www.xraylistening.com minds, metaphors and (ethical) manipulation Wed, 08 Feb 2012 12:42:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 Comment on How To Use Clean Language To Transform Groups And Teams by Judy http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2012/02/08/using-clean-language-to-transform-groups-and-teams/comment-page-1/#comment-2065 Judy Wed, 08 Feb 2012 12:42:13 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2565#comment-2065 Two important references: Caitlin's site http://www.trainingattention.co.uk Iain McGilchrist right-brain-left-brain http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFs9WO2B8uI Two important references:
Caitlin’s site http://www.trainingattention.co.uk
Iain McGilchrist right-brain-left-brain http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFs9WO2B8uI

]]> Comment on How To Use Clean Language To Help Dyslexic Adults by Using Clean Language To Transform Groups And Teams http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2012/01/18/using-clean-language-to-help-dyslexic-adults/comment-page-1/#comment-2064 Using Clean Language To Transform Groups And Teams Wed, 08 Feb 2012 08:40:26 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2505#comment-2064 [...] To hear the first interview in the series, with Nancy Doyle, click here [...] [...] To hear the first interview in the series, with Nancy Doyle, click here [...]

]]> Comment on How To Manipulate People With Intelligent Influence by Weapons of Influence http://www.xraylistening.com/products/intelligentinfluencedvd/comment-page-1/#comment-2057 Weapons of Influence Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:59:00 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?page_id=1281#comment-2057 [...] all, I make the big claim that my Secrets of Intelligent Influence video offers new ideas and information that you won’t get anywhere else. I’m delighted [...] [...] all, I make the big claim that my Secrets of Intelligent Influence video offers new ideas and information that you won’t get anywhere else. I’m delighted [...]

]]> Comment on The Core Clean Language Questions by Dave Isherwood http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2012/01/31/the-core-clean-language-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2039 Dave Isherwood Fri, 03 Feb 2012 16:06:18 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2544#comment-2039 I attended a talk given by Judy (on Hitting the Sweet Spot) recently, having realised already that clean language was something I needed to know more about. Really enjoyed the evening and have just made a start on reading the book. I cant wait to try the clean questions in my sports coaching - it will be fascinating to find out how much more I will learn about the young people I work with. I am genuinely excited about learning more about clean language and the use of metaphors. I attended a talk given by Judy (on Hitting the Sweet Spot) recently, having realised already that clean language was something I needed to know more about. Really enjoyed the evening and have just made a start on reading the book. I cant wait to try the clean questions in my sports coaching – it will be fascinating to find out how much more I will learn about the young people I work with. I am genuinely excited about learning more about clean language and the use of metaphors.

]]> Comment on The Core Clean Language Questions by Sophie http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2012/01/31/the-core-clean-language-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2037 Sophie Fri, 03 Feb 2012 14:44:24 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2544#comment-2037 This is a brilliant book. It has inspired me so many times and I loved doing the exercises. I learnt great stuff about myself and my metaphors and felt relief when I could use the questions to help me reframe anxious thoughts. Highly recommended! This is a brilliant book. It has inspired me so many times and I loved doing the exercises. I learnt great stuff about myself and my metaphors and felt relief when I could use the questions to help me reframe anxious thoughts. Highly recommended!

]]> Comment on Simple But Not Easy: Mastering Clean Language by tez http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2012/01/30/simple-but-not-easy-mastering-clean-language/comment-page-1/#comment-2036 tez Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:57:22 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2536#comment-2036 Often the person is overwhelmed by the detail, it is the clean langauage etc which changes their perception of their map of the world. The person is caught up in the detail, they are trapping themselves in the detail, once guided, through the use of clean language to another path, they will fill in the similar depth of detail in a new direction. For example a lovely lady raised her concerns of being over analytical, are we all not at times? some of our group went to deep into the matter , down the rabbit hole. I don't know how this ties into clean language but the concept is to just guide the person , let them find their own way. in this case we were studying reframing, which clean language seems to be extremely usefull. I asked her when you eat a bowl of rice , do you eat it one grain at a time? Her response absolutely floored me. She just paused , thought about and drew her own meaning from it , drew her own understanding and it all came gushing out , she told me things I had never even thought of, she was guiding me , teaching me, all I did was provide a push in another direction. This lovely lady drew and formed her own metaphors from this. Perhaps I am wrong but the power of clean language is in its vagueness, the art of selecting the detail causing the blocking and through language allow it to fade away and vanish into a new understanding. this is the clients understanding, which , if we are privelaged enough to be trusted by them and made a part of then, we become the students. Clean language is the tool to do this. Any thoughts anyone? Often the person is overwhelmed by the detail, it is the clean langauage etc which changes their perception of their map of the world.
The person is caught up in the detail, they are trapping themselves in the detail, once guided, through the use of clean language to another path, they will fill in the similar depth of detail in a new direction.
For example a lovely lady raised her concerns of being over analytical, are we all not at times?
some of our group went to deep into the matter , down the rabbit hole.
I don’t know how this ties into clean language but the concept is to just guide the person , let them find their own way.
in this case we were studying reframing, which clean language seems to be extremely usefull.
I asked her when you eat a bowl of rice , do you eat it one grain at a time?
Her response absolutely floored me. She just paused , thought about and drew her own meaning from it , drew her own understanding and it all came gushing out , she told me things I had never even thought of, she was guiding me , teaching me, all I did was provide a push in another direction.
This lovely lady drew and formed her own metaphors from this.
Perhaps I am wrong but the power of clean language is in its vagueness, the art of selecting the detail causing the blocking and through language allow it to fade away and vanish into a new understanding.
this is the clients understanding, which , if we are privelaged enough to be trusted by them and made a part of then, we become the students.
Clean language is the tool to do this.
Any thoughts anyone?

]]> Comment on How Do You Know? Finding The Felt Sense by Maarten Aalberse http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2011/12/05/finding-the-felt-sense-focusing-and-clean-language/comment-page-1/#comment-2035 Maarten Aalberse Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:28:20 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2387#comment-2035 Yes, Judy, I was indeed having a therapy-context in mind. And there I often like to not only match the words the client uses, but also his tonality, etc. And... there are many ways to say « hmhmm » or « aaah ». I like how James can say « aah », which to my ears sounds like a nice blend of interest and surprize... and I imagine that this stimulates the client's curiosity about what emerges. And such curiosity is a key element of mindfulness. And yet, at times I also find it helpful to match my « hmm » to what appears to be the feeling-tone of what the client says. Ok not superclean, maybe, but one of the ways that can be helpful in eliciting spontaneous movements/ gestures of the client. That is a main part of my work – and a main reason why I got so interested in CL... Yes, Judy, I was indeed having a therapy-context in mind. And there I often like to not only match the words the client uses, but also his tonality, etc.

And… there are many ways to say « hmhmm » or « aaah ».
I like how James can say « aah », which to my ears sounds like a nice blend of interest and surprize… and I imagine that this stimulates the client’s curiosity about what emerges. And such curiosity is a key element of mindfulness.
And yet, at times I also find it helpful to match my « hmm » to what appears to be the feeling-tone of what the client says.
Ok not superclean, maybe, but one of the ways that can be helpful in eliciting spontaneous movements/ gestures of the client. That is a main part of my work – and a main reason why I got so interested in CL…

]]> Comment on The Smooth Ideavirus by Maarten Aalberse http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2012/02/03/the-smooth-ideavirus/comment-page-1/#comment-2033 Maarten Aalberse Fri, 03 Feb 2012 11:09:51 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2555#comment-2033 Oh Judy, since you mention "targeting the same flu", do read this one:, you'll understand why: http://www.doyletics.com/art/provocat.htm "open fly therapy" And I guess the common mentor was Carl Rogers? Oh Judy, since you mention “targeting the same flu”, do read this one:, you’ll understand why:

http://www.doyletics.com/art/provocat.htm

“open fly therapy”

And I guess the common mentor was Carl Rogers?

]]> Comment on The Smooth Ideavirus by Malcolm http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2012/02/03/the-smooth-ideavirus/comment-page-1/#comment-2032 Malcolm Fri, 03 Feb 2012 10:32:11 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2555#comment-2032 It was only after a compelling experience that I became a fan and user of Clean Language in earnest. It seems like words-of-explanation are like "jagged rocks" and cannot paint the "rainbows" in the mind that form once the "Clean" questions open up the "hidden chambers of the mind". So there :-) It was only after a compelling experience that I became a fan and user of Clean Language in earnest. It seems like words-of-explanation are like “jagged rocks” and cannot paint the “rainbows” in the mind that form once the “Clean” questions open up the “hidden chambers of the mind”. So there :-)

]]> Comment on The Core Clean Language Questions by Peter Urey http://www.xraylistening.com/blog/2012/01/31/the-core-clean-language-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2031 Peter Urey Fri, 03 Feb 2012 10:29:14 +0000 http://www.xraylistening.com/?p=2544#comment-2031 Great material for people in face to face sales and customer relationship management not just coaching. Exploring the inner workings of the mind in complex sales is invaluable. Will be in touch soon. Peter. Great material for people in face to face sales and customer relationship management not just coaching. Exploring the inner workings of the mind in complex sales is invaluable. Will be in touch soon. Peter.

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